Freitag, 24. Mai 2013

388 | Implications of Mental-I-ties – 'Lack' & 'Need' vs. Self-Worth & The Value of Life (Part2)


ART by Kelly Posey




...In the process of investigating the main beliefs that determine my accepted self-definitions – self-definitions that were formed in my process of ‘education’ and ‘personality development’ and that are not equal to life as self-worth and self-acceptance – I came to see and realize that most such beliefs are based on a perception of NEED, which in turn is based in a perception of LACK.
...Here one is able to see the polarity within such perception constructs, since without a perception of LACK the perception of NEED would not have emerged.
...What is further interesting to note here is that such constructs are MENTAL in nature, meaning: they are based on belief/thinking and they emerge from a parenting/education system that is rooted in COMPARISON which is in essence competition which is in essence the idea that I NEED to get/have/be MORE in order to be fulfilled/accomplished/accepted/appreciated/worthy.


I am continuing in this context from:

Day 387 | Implications of Mental-I-ties – Lack & Need vs. Self-Worth & The Value of Life
Day 386 | EVERYTHING you Think & BeLIEve is a LIE. Stop - and Open your ‘I’ to LIFE
Day 385 | EVERYTHING you Think & BeLIEve is a LIE
Day 384 | Self-Worth & The Value of Life
Day 383 | Redefining ME | What’s Love & Happiness Worth?
Day 381 | Redefining ME | Debunking Self Religion - I Am what I beLIEve? (part2)
Day 380 | Redefining ME | Debunking Self Religion - I Am what I beLIEve? 




So – looking into the main belief in relation to NEEDS that I have come to BELIEVE within and about myself, I can see some pretty curious shit, for example:

I need something / someone to make me feel valuable.

I need something / someone to appreciate me.

I need something / someone to show me that I am worthy.

I need something / someone to give me and my life meaning and purpose.

I need to be accepted and loved.

I need to be liked by others otherwise I cannot feel good about myself.

I need to meet the expectations of society/parents/the world otherwise I cannot feel accomplished and fulfilled.

I need others to acknowledge my work/contribution otherwise I cannot feel meaningful and important in life.


Now – 
before I move on to deconstructing these/such beliefs, there is something I’d like to point out here, which is the operative word: FEEL.

And what is interesting about it, if one have a look at the above statements, is how the FEELING is subject to external stimuli and triggers – and therefore, one should in fact question whether what one FEEL is real!

I mean, the way we feel about ourselves determines and defines EVERYTHING in our lives – in fact it defines what we are and aren’t able to do and be, it defines how we will experience ourselves, it defines who we will be with others and to what extent we will push ourselves beyond our accepted limitations or not. So – would that not in fact be MIND CONTROL from the inside out?

How does a FEELING or EMOTION emerge? How is it created? What does it consist of? No one seems to know, let alone investigate these questions for real, not even parents! Isn’t this bizarre?!



So – I’d suggest studying the Desteni material where such questions are investigated in-depth (see links at the bottom).

In the meantime, I continue here with deconstructing the above statements/beliefs, based on the realization (which one will be able to see within the following) that a NEED does not exist without its opposite-polarity which is the perception of LACK:


“I NEED something / someone to make me feel valuable.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I LACK value, and that I myself am not valuable before another makes me FEEL valuable.


“I NEED something / someone to appreciate me.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I do not appreciate myself or that me appreciating myself is not enough, I must get this appreciation from outside of myself, otherwise I cannot FEEL appreciated.


“I NEED something / someone to show me that I am worthy.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I do not see/accept myself as worthy, but require another to make me FEEL worthy; but, would that be actually real, if I within myself do not accept self-worth as myself?!


“I NEED something / someone to give me and my life meaning and purpose.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I/my life LACKS meaning and purpose, and that such meaning/purpose must be given to me from outside of myself –
And have a look how many people fall for religions and spirituality because that gives them meaning, but where is the meaning and purpose of LIFE within all that?! And how come one does not take self-responsibility to give oneself and one’s life a meaning and a purpose that truly serves LIFE and who one really is?!
(Please see/watch Awakening to Purpose!)


“I NEED to be accepted and loved.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I feel that I LACK acceptance and love, and that I cannot accept myself or love myself unless acceptance and love is given to me by someone/something outside of myself –
And here again, how many people spend so much money on gurus and groups that make them FEEL accepted and loved, when in essence people cannot / do not learn practical self-acceptance and self-love, and so we set ourselves onto this endless quest for love and acceptance, moving further and further from ourselves in the beLIEf that we will/must find something/someone that will make us FEEL accepted and FEEL loved. We have been duped!


“I NEED to be liked by others otherwise I cannot feel good about myself.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I LACK goodness and I LACK the feeling of ‘being good’ and that I am subject to and dependent upon OTHERS to MAKE ME FEEL GOOD about myself –
But what does that say about oneself?!

“I NEED to meet the expectations of society/parents/the world otherwise I cannot feel accomplished and fulfilled.”
--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that accomplishment and fulfillment is something that comes through fulfilling expectations imposed onto oneself from the outside, which are the laws and norms of in fact CONSUMERISM and the whole COMPETITION system that goes with it; and that unless I meet the ‘standards’ of the system, I probably LACK something within myself, and then I FEEL like I’m not good enough or am not fulfilled or not accomplished –
But do we ever ask ourselves what real self-accomplishment and self-fulfillment is/can be?!


“I NEED others to acknowledge my work/contribution otherwise I cannot feel meaningful and important in life.”

--- The implication that is tacitly accepted here is that I NEED to FEEL meaningful and important otherwise I FEEL that I LACK something, and unless OTHERS acknowledge what I do I cannot FEEL meaningful and important –
But do we ever consider living in a way that we ourselves are able to acknowledge and appreciate our own practical-living, our own development processes, our own expression and expansion in self-honesty? 
No – because we do not even know or understand ourselves; we are so brainwashed through systems of education/parenting – and have a look, such systems are also based in polarity: the polarity of REWARD and PUNISHMENT, which is what creates a human being that is able to be controlled, manipulated and directed like trigger-robots through a simple thing like FEELINGS (and have a look at how advertisement work for instance, or even religions) without even understanding or investigating what feeling-/emotional-responses are and how they are created!



…to be continued




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