549 | What does Self Trust have to do with Failure?!

If you look into how you have defined Trust and/or Self Trust, I am certain you will find some emotional attachments to your definition, as I did.

For example things like ‘feeling safe’ or ‘feeling certain of…’ or ‘knowing’ and ‘being sure about…’ tend to be within our definitions of Trust / Self Trust; or things like ‘feeling confident about…’ or ‘feeling like I can rely on…’ and other perceptions and beliefs of the kind.

Even the dictionary definition is interesting in this regard:

: belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.

More:

1

a :  assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something

b :  one in which confidence is placed

2

a :  dependence on something future or contingent :  hope

b :  reliance on future payment for property (as merchandise) delivered :  credit <bought furniture on trust>

…So it’s interesting that Trust is defined within belief, and that words like reliance, hope (!) and dependence are used to define it…

So I walked a process in understanding and redefining TRUST as a matter of fact / reality, and here I’d like to share what I’ve come to see and realize:

Trust is where something is physically measurable to be consistent over time.

Trust is thus something that is built /developed over time.

Trust is not a singularity – I can trust myself to do/be certain things, other things I cannot yet trust myself to be/do because I have not yet ‘done’/’been’ them. This doesn’t mean I can’t lol – what it does mean is that this is how trust is built/ developed: by consistently showing/’proving’ to myself that I can do this or be that, by living it in moments and creating it as myself; as every time I live it, a building block of self-trust in relation to that point is set, and so I accumulate self-trust step by step through consistency.

Trust therefore exists in relation to something: I can trust this person/outcome to be like this/that (because I have ‘measured’ over time that this was ‘done’ so consistently).

If you read my previous posts 

544 | Embrace yourself, empower yourself 

545 | Embrace yourself, empower yourself - Part 2 

546 | F.E.A.R. – Fail Early And Responsibly 

547 | F.E.A.R. – Fail Early And Responsibly - Part 2

548 | What keeps you from embracing yourself and living fully?

then you’ll see (as I was able to see) that I had throughout my life placed trust in failure. 

And therefore:

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to place my trust in failure.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to connect trust to failure, wherein I would almost ‘expect’ myself to fail because that’s what I’d always perceived myself to be doing.

Therefore I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to, when I faced failure, take it personally and be ‘disappointed’ with myself and create thoughts and emotional experiences about me being a failure; because that is the point that got systematized through repetition, through accepting and allowing myself to define myself as failure, to see myself as failure, to create the fear of being a failure and the desire to NOT be a failure, which obviously in itself implies the acceptance of failure to begin with.

I forgive myself that I hadn’t allowed myself to see, realize and understand how trust functions, and how failure functions, and that I had placed myself under enormous pressure by trying to create trust in myself to ‘avoid failure’, instead of understanding How I can build /develop trust and how I can stop (re-)creating the experience of failure within myself.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to make ‘absolute statements’ to myself such as for example (as someone who hasn’t been very confident in socializing) – “living self trust is to trust myself to participate in a moment with other people”; where, if there comes such a moment in my world/reality and I do hold back, I’d then go into “oh no…”, which is undermining my self trust in fact – because I had made such an absolute statement that failure was in a way already programmed-in.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to exist within a constant experience and application of ‘trying’ – which in fact is always coming from a starting point of ‘lack’ or of ‘wrongness’, from which I was then ‘trying to do the right thing’ or trying to ‘fix’ things or to ‘avoid failure’. And this is in fact exhausting, on the one hand; and on the other hand quite consequential, because mostly: ‘trying’ to do/live something in fact prevents us from actually doing/living it.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to exist within a want/need/desire to be more than who I am, from a starting-point of judgment and ‘lack’.

It’s okay to want to be more, but this must come as a genuine self realization point, where I see/recognize my full potential and realize there is so much more; this then would also entail looking at and recognizing my weaknesses and limitations and investigating where and how I am in fact limiting myself. Very often our full potential remains unlived due to the limitations and restrictions we have accepted about ourselves – therefore a major part of moving ourselves to live our full potential is removing/forgiving/letting go of the self-imposed or accepted limitations and restrictions, perceptions and beliefs, and REALLY looking at everything (including ourself) for what it is.

From this starting-point of self honesty then it becomes simply about seeing what it is that I have already developed, and what it is that I haven’t yet developed as myself;

and about making a decision about who I will myself to be, what I will accept and allow and what I will not accept or allow. And clearly, it is a wise decision to stop accepting the limitations we have systematically submerged ourselves to throughout our lives, be it due to cultural, educational, parenting or other systems we were exposed to in our formative years, and take responsibility for who we are and can be.

So back to the point of trust – Here you can ask yourself, by looking at your life thus far: What/who can I trust myself to be? What experiences do I trust myself to have over and over again? And what has been MY role in making this my reality?

And then also – What would I like to trust myself to be? How would I like to trust that my life will turn? And here it’s not about the projection details, but rather about the realization that: I reap what I saw, and therefore this is where the point of Trust is to be found. And so if I want to change what I reap (as experiences or expressions or life-moments and the ‘turn’ a life takes), then I need to change what I saw, i.e. how I participate and who I am in moments, ergo what I create.

A good friend once said to me: <<You cannot ‘fix’ things; you can only create what you are the master creator of.>>

Therein is the point of Trust. 

What are you the master creator of? Have a look: You can already trust yourself with something – with all that which you’ve already been creating and re-creating, over and over again. 

You don’t like it? You wanna trust yourself to be something more, something different, something better? Start here and now by forgiving any and all self judgment, any and all points of ‘lack’, of ‘inferiority’, of self-victimization. Take self responsibility. That is Self-Response-Ability. See your truth, see yourself as your creation for what it is – and look within yourself in self honesty to see your true potential. Start here and now, and realize that all creation is an accumulation process – that is how you have created what and who and how you are after all.

There are obviously more dimensions to the point of Trust and Self Trust –for further support perspectives and insights you can search these words on the eqafe site and also visit Self & Living– but start Here & Now to begin with, and ask yourself those questions; that alone is a powerful application of self trust. 

And remember: every moment counts when it comes to what we are creating. 

Discipline yourself to be consistent within what you want to create as yourself, as your life – and accept nothing less than your full potential, accept nothing less than who you really are as LIFE. It’s time to let the systems go.

 

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548 | What keeps you from embracing yourself and living fully?

Expanding from my previous posts

544 | Embrace yourself, empower yourself 

545 | Embrace yourself, empower yourself - Part 2 

546 | F.E.A.R. – Fail Early And Responsibly 

547 | F.E.A.R. – Fail Early And Responsibly - Part 2

I wanted to share some self forgiveness to assist in deconstructing the patterns and systems that keep us from embracing ourselves and living fully. 

Obviously this has been a longer and deeper process for me – initially I had found thoughts and beliefs pertaining to how I’d see myself and my life as ‘failure’, while later on, as I went deeper, I found an entire ‘embodiment’ of the failure-construct within myself which was manifesting into and as a form of perception: how I would see myself and my life, how I would look at myself and my life – and I realized that there were many things that I hadn’t even considered as possible or as option for myself and my life, due to the very limitations of my own perception,

I am sharing the following self forgiveness in the hope that it may serve as inspiration for anyone reading this. So if in any way you’ve had in your life thoughts or experiences of ‘failure’ – this is for you.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to see myself as failure.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to look at myself as failure.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to hold on to moments of failure and to focus on those/such moments of failure, so much so that I’ve defined myself within that and made it ‘mine’.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to, throughout my life, when recognizing a moment or point of failure, judge it and judge myself, within this perpetuating the failure and giving it substance, instead of utilizing realizations of failure constructively, to learn from it and move beyond it, to grow and expand.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as failure whenever my participation/expression did not meet the best I could be in that moment.

Within this I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to (instead of slowing down and leading myself within my reality constructively) create projections as expectations or desires as a ‘standard’ to be fulfilled or attained or achieved for me to not ‘feel like’ a failure.

So within this, I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to trap myself in ‘morality’, a mental polarity of ‘success and failure’, where I have existed in doubt and uncertainty, in a form of inferiority, not yet fully living and expressing self leadership, not yet leading myself to my full potential in every moment.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to struggle within and against myself in a mental realm of polarities.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to make an emotional and judgmental reaction out of failure – a reaction which had become the way that I saw myself and my life, within this limiting myself and my life to be exactly that: a ‘failure’, through my own acceptance and allowance, through how I myself had related to moments of failure.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to suffer – ‘myself’ being my body and being, who I really am as life; that self of life was suffering, it was hurting and starving, because I didn’t take care of it, I didn’t take care of myself, I had not allowed myself to live constructively.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to resist the life in me – to fear change, to ever need a ‘comfort zone’, to suppress my full expression, my full potential, in a mode of ‘justifying failure’ and ‘fighting for my limitations’.

I forgive myself that I hadn’t allowed myself to see, realize and understand that ‘failure’ is integrated into the world system as such, and that everybody is fighting their own struggle to ‘make it’, but really – neither submitting to ‘failure’ in negativity nor ‘flying high’ through positive thinking is pragmatic – as in both cases you play the game. And clearly: this polarity game must stop for real self empowerment to emerge.

So how did I go about after such realizations? I defined my values and principles, I recognized my value and potential as life, and I decided to redefine success to not be of a polarity system but of real self-willed evolution in awareness. I refuse to see myself as failure. I refuse to accept failure as an option. This ‘image’ I have had of my life as ‘failure’ has a history, its own story, but in the end it’s just that: an image, a perception, a belief. Don’t let it be an embodied consciousness, a self-fulfilling prophecy. Life is so much more. I am so much more. We are so much more. Finding the decency of self empowerment, really, that’s the best gift each one can give to themselves, and as we give it to ourselves we spark it in others.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to connect the word ‘failure’ to fear.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to fear failure.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to fear being seen as failure.

Yet I am the one accepting this ‘image’, regardless where it comes from.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to see myself as ‘failure’, and to pity myself and to get angry and to feel powerless and helpless, all the while I am the one allowing this/such ‘image’ of ‘me’ to exist within me, in my mind and body, as fear, as self-definition, as attitude toward life/living – it is atrocious – and only when I stop this ‘crime against life’ that is in me, as me, only when we stop valuing ourselves and each-other in means that are mean – will we stop the atrocities of humanity on earth.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to keep parts of myself suppressed, denied, or in any way in separation from my awareness, from ME HERE.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to resist bringing all of me HERE to take responsibility for and lead/direct as in: self-create.

Within this I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to have judged or feared or resented and loathed parts of myself –either because they ‘cause’ a certain experience of myself or because they ‘validate’ certain negative/inferior self-definitions that I had accepted.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to have thoughts and beliefs about ‘who I am’ and what I ‘can do’ and ‘cannot do’ – and in fact there is much we cannot even SEE ourselves doing/being due to the VEILS of our accepted self-definitions – it is our own self-image that (through our acceptance and allowance) limits our ability to grow, expand, and be everything we can be!

Here I see the separation and also the ‘morality trap’ that exists within and as the mind as consciousness –where we can use ‘logic’ to in-form our justifications and excuses and make them sound ‘good’. Unfortunately such petty mechanisms are only ‘valid’ within the bounds of the fuzzy logic used to ‘make sense’ of our world in self-interest as ego in-fear, a ‘logic’ that is self made and made up to defend our limitations in our own MIND.

I forgive myself that I hadn’t allowed myself to see and realize how we human beings walk around together in this world yet each of us separated into and as a bubble, a MIND SYSTEM that exists in fact in-fear, and thus inferior to the full life potential that each one can be.

So instead of seeing self-honesty and reality for what it is, we interpret the world and ourselves through ‘morality’ in the mind – all those judgments of right and wrong / good and bad (because I mean, if we really had clear judgment about what’s right and wrong / good and bad then this world and our existence here would be an entirely different story!), all those moments where we inferiorize or superiorize ourselves and others in our minds, while we fail to see our responsibility in the bigger picture or even to realize how we abdicate our power to systems of separation and devaluation, and that is in itself EVIL – because we abdicate our right to life and turn our back at the value of LIFE in fact.

I forgive myself that I hadn’t allowed myself to see that EVIL is the opposite of LIVE, and that I haven’t yet fully questioned and explored what it means to LIVE.

If we would truly LIVE, if we were LIFE, wouldn’t we then create LIFE as our world, our existence in this reality?

Yet if we look at what we’ve been creating as humanity on earth, clearly it is the opposite of LIVE, it is literally evil, a crime against life: this is the world, the existence we have created.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to be evil and exist as evil, where I have applied the ‘evil of the world out there’ within and toward my own mind, within and toward myself –

through accepted self-definitions, through accepted inferiority and through allowing myself to feel and be disempowered. Where I had often wanted to give up in relation to ‘how things are’ or ‘who I am’ as what I have become and how I was experiencing myself.

So that’s when I realized that I have to embrace myself, I have to embrace all of me. I had to LOOK at and look INTO everything that was coming up inside me, everything that existed ‘as me’ – to see, realize and understand how it came to be, how I’d been ‘to it’ in unawareness, what the consequences have been, how I have been part in its creation/evolution, and how I can embrace that ‘part of me’ (be it an emotion or mood, a belief or thought pattern, a self-definition or the general ‘view at life’ that each one has) and take RESPONSE-ABILITY for it as myself.

Many talk about STANDING UP. In the world system, this has been misinterpreted and misused as ‘rebelling’ –though that has had its ‘merit’ too throughout the history of human civilization–

when in fact Standing Up implies that we first  have to stand equal to and one with the deepest ground of our ‘souls’ deep deep down inside and purify our existence, embrace the demons, understand our mind’s creation, see the correction/transformation required, and step in as Creators to live the change/correction into beingness, into creation, into reality. As within, so without – as above, so below.

We each exist both within and without; we are the above and the below.

I do hope this illustrates the responsibility we bear as human beings, toward ourself in the first place, and life as a whole.

I mean, things like decency, respect, honor, care and support – these things cannot infuse into our world systems unless they are birthed from within ourselves, individually and together.

I’m up for it and I’m pretty excited to live in these fascinating times where so much more is possible and where our future depends on our awareness and living application more than ever before – depends on our real nature to be GOOD, to BE LIFE, to LIVE and let LIVE, to create LIFE and THRIVE…

So what will it be?

You decide, as does each ONE – Be The One for YOU.

For support in your process of self empowerment and life empowerment:

Check out the Desteni I Process Lite – a FREE online course aiming to assist humanity in self-empowerment – to end the disaster of a dysfunctional consciousness.

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