Day 109: The Hand that Rocks the Cradle – Parenting begins with Ourselves



ART by Marlen Vargas Del Razo

We have been looking into and discussing parenting, character building and the patterns of consciousness a lot lately, and we will continue for quite some time – because the self-honest investigation and understanding of these points is vital in the process of realizing, forgiving and changing ourselves and our existence into life as oneness and equality.

Within observing our existence from the perspective of patterns, we can see that no change is actually happening due to the lack of understand and denial about our role in creation and our responsibility for our world.

What we can see further is that every next generation repeats the patterns of the previous ones, and even though variations and mutations take place, in essence the patterns remain the same and boil down to the separation we have accepted, the self-abdication we have allowed, and the self-interest we have made to our driving-force due to our bipolar starting-point that is based in fear/inferiority and the projection of superiority as ‘power’, ‘desires’, ‘winning’, ‘attaining’ and the like.

The basic aspect of the consciousness a child is exposed to when it’s born into this world is the perception of ‘superiority’ and ‘inferiority’ as ‘winning’ and ‘losing’. This perception is enhanced through the universal parenting pattern of ‘reward’ and ‘punishment’, which is the application of what we call ‘love’.

Ironic, isn’t it?

What can be seen within that is that the design of human consciousness is based in polarity. Once this consciousness system is accepted as ‘real’- "because everyone else perceives it" – the starting-point of a being shifts from its oneness and equality as life into a bipolar starting-point: where the child starts seeing itself either as ‘inferior’ or as ‘superior’, depending on what impulses the parents give and what value-judgments they present as ‘logic’.

Through the acceptance of one single point, for example the point of ‘love’ as expressed through ‘reward’ and ‘punishment’: one accepts the whole matrix of bipolar designs that constitute the consciousness of this world.

So the child from that moment on starts becoming a personality, forming a character based on the bipolar nature of consciousness and starts finding ways to participate with ‘success’ in the power-games it is confronted with in its environment.

Within this, self-interest is born and the anxiety/fear of ‘losing’ or being in ‘disadvantage’ in relation to one’s environment; and this in turn enhances the inner building process of a character that will ‘win’, because this consciousness that the child now has defined itself as and embodies has entered the ‘human race’ for survival and is thus driven by the existential energy of Survival: fear of losing and desire for winning.

This Energy eventually becomes the Ego with/as which the child will become an adult and start participating in the world system.

The moment the child has defined itself in separation from life (due to feedback and input from its environment, imposing onto the child the ‘ways of the world’ as rules, value-judgments, ‘reward’ and ‘punishment’) : the child aligns itself to the consciousness designs of this world.

This is the moment of self-abdication: where we give up ourselves as life, and give away our directive principle to the systems of this world as consciousness.





I forgive myself that I haven’t allowed myself to see, realize and understand the urgency of re-defining Parenting to be something that in fact supports life as oneness and equality.

I forgive myself that I’ve accepted and allowed a world where we blame the hand that rocks the cradle, yet we refuse to see that we become exact copies of our parents in many ways, often even create an inner entity within our mind that is the ‘parent’ through which we continue to treat ourselves the way our parents treated us, in spite of our tendency to find faults in how they raised us.

I forgive myself that I haven’t allowed myself to see, realize and understand that the basic aspect of the consciousness a child is exposed to when it’s born into this world is the perception of ‘superiority’ and ‘inferiority’ as ‘winning’ and ‘losing’; and that this perception is enhanced through the universal parenting pattern of ‘reward’ and ‘punishment’, which is the application of what we call ‘love’.

I forgive myself that I haven’t allowed myself to see, realize and understand that to change this world and to change ourselves, we require to understand and forgive the patterns that made us, the patterns through which WE make this world;
and that we require to STOP our creation, and re-evaluate what we are doing.

Within this, we have to forgive and transform the ‘inner parent’ into a living-application of supporting and assisting ourselves to self-honestly investigate, realize and understand HOW we were made and how we adopted / accepted / allowed the patterns of our existence as if there were no other way, when clearly: everyone can remember themselves as a child, when the realization was still here that "Something is off, this cannot be life/living, there must be another way!"

I commit myself to showing that Parenting must begin with ourselves – WE have to be the parents we wish we had, and live that design of actual life-support into beingness, into creation: for ourselves and each-other and the children to come.

I commit myself to showing that unless the parent realizes the consequences of the accepted and allowed patterns of existence: no solution can be realized that will be an ACTUAL SOLUTION = one that breaks the patterns of this creation that have clearly manifested nothing but abuse, manipulation, deception, exploitation and degradation of life; and establishes a new agreement of Living that will ensure actual freedom and support for LIFE.

I commit myself to showing that acknowledging the consequences of ourselves and our creation and taking self-responsibility: is the only way to get to the self-realization of actual solutions.

I commit myself to sharing myself and the process I’ve been walking with the tools of self-honesty, self-forgiveness, self-corrective application, as this is the only process in the world that investigates the consequences of our existence as we have accepted and allowed it in all its dimensions, from the small to the big, within and without.

I commit myself to sharing the common sense that there is in fact only ONE group Here and that is LIFE, of which we are ALL EQUALLY part of; and that the system we have manifested and called ‘life’ is not worthy of life as it places Profit before life and exploits life in the name of Profit.

Yet all accept and allow it because the inner consciousness of each-one ‘evolves’ in separation from life and is based on exactly the same principles as the world system: reward and punishment, winning and losing, superiority and inferiority. Therefore it is this inner consciousness of self-interest that requires to be changed, because just like Profit, self-interest does not care for life.

Therefore I commit myself to showing that within the process of becoming our own parents transformed and purified to actually and in fact SUPPORT ourselves as LIFE:

We have to give-up self-interest for the interest of life, and first of all start to CARE for ourselves as LIFE.

One reason I blog daily is to share the common sense that self-investigation in writing, self-honesty, self-forgiveness and self-corrective application is the practical way to CARE for ourselves, to take responsibility for ourselves and what we have accepted and allowed to become of ourselves and our world, and to script and birth living solutions for all aspects of life/living –

so that we may in fact through practical living application CHANGE our existence from the inside out.

We gotta STOP manifesting the current atrocity in our world – and start manifesting actual understanding, actual support, actual care, actual responsibility, dignity, freedom and respect for LIFE. This is my commitment to myself as life.

I commit myself to sharing the common sense that the only value system valid for Life / for Living: is the value of EQUALITY as life – not only as a way to purify and realign our world systems such as the money-system to actually support all life, but also to purify and realign ourselves and our personal relationships, parenting included, to actually and in fact SUPPORT LIFE:

No more power-games, no more mental concepts of ‘superiority’/’inferiority’ to dictate rules of enslavement and control, no more gods to save us, no masters, no slaves.

Instead, each human being and all of us together as One, as Life, as a Whole, must stand-up in for life in oneness and equality and finally start LIVING, as self-willed individuals, equals of Life – creating LIFE, not death.

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