542 | Creatures of Habit

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I was reading Addictive Habits on Activist’s Journey to Life 

<<...habits are quite similar to addictions: it's something you do over and over. You are often driven by a compulsive need (though with habits it's not experienced with that same intensity). It is something that you have done so often that it is now automatic - you don't even have to think about doing it>>

which reminded me that some days ago I’d wanted to share some thoughts on The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

<<If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you — your ex-girlfriend’s new Facebook picture, how quickly the batteries die in the TV remote, missing out on yet another 2-for-1 sale on hand sanitizer — chances are you don’t have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that’s your real problem. Not the hand sanitizer.

…In life, our fucks must be spent on something. There really is no such thing as not giving a fuck. The question is simply how we each choose to allot our fucks. You only get a limited number of fucks to give over your lifetime, so you must spend them with care.

…Essentially, we become more selective about the fucks we’re willing to give. This is something called ‘maturity.’ It’s nice, you should try it sometime. Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.>>

Well, the things we ‘give a fuck about’ are interesting enough to look into. Let’s see –

We start with learning how to give a fuck about what everybody else thinks about us (how to be cheered and not get scolded), we go on with learning how to give a fuck about what we wear, how we look and what impression we make on everybody else (whether we are liked and validated in the fucks we give a fuck about) – and if we’re lucky something ‘happens’ at some point in our lives that makes us wake up and realize that everything we’d given a fuck about was really just bullocks in our head and that there are much more serious and REAL stuff out there –which is bluntly put right HERE– to give a fuck about.

What we CARE about – what we ‘give a fuck’ about – really does say something about who we are. It does in fact say a LOT about who we are.

And since we’re talking in the context of habit and addiction, have you ever looked at your thoughts and reaction patterns, your habitual ‘way of going about things and reacting to things’ and how you repeat the same things over and over, and the way it all seems ‘so normal’, it all seems to be things you just HAVE to think, or say, or do, it just WANTS/NEEDS to come out…? Yep, those are the very habits that inhabit you, you have created them, but to begin with they were the very things you shouldn’t have given one fuck about. But alas upon our entrance into this world the system starts bombarding us with impressions, imprints, woes and ways and coping mechanisms. We watch and copy, there is no other way to make sense of and fit into this ‘adult world’. And we end up addicted to our own thoughts and reaction patterns, our own fears and desires, most of them unreal, irrational, yet we follow them, we validate the fuzzy logic in justification, and rest in self-righteousness. Right? Right. The human nature has been carefully formed and crafted, and today we have the ‘human condition’, the world as we know it.

Human nature, human condition – are they perhaps one and the same? Should we perhaps look more into and see: the conditioned nature of the human for what it is, a product, a construct, the result of systematic equations… 

I’ll leave you with these questions marks at this point, more in this context in the next post.

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Day 501 | Investigating Self Awareness - From Reaction to Creation

I was going to give this blog post the title “The End is the Beginning” or “The End of Me” lol - Why? Because I am at an interesting point where I am ready to give up 'the old me' without self-spite.
It simply isn't bringing it anymore lol, it’s too small, too limited, too self-absorbed - the 'old me' i.e. all habits and conditions and limitations and definitions and judgments and reactions and patterns that make-up the 'who I am' as the 'me' I have been as who and what I had created myself into, which is what the result of my life, my conditions and my relationships is basically showing me, reflecting back to be like a mirror.

But instead of approaching the 'old me' in self-judgment and self-loathing, within that in essence sabotaging myself and my ability to expand and change - I now apply a constructive approach.
At the same however, the awareness and decision is here that Enough is Enough! That I commit myself to assist and support myself in the process of stop existing as mere Reactions and start Living in a process of actual Creation.
I will no longer limit myself, I will no longer accept anxiety and stress to be the driving forces in my life, I will no longer follow the experience of negativity, of lack, of inadequacy, of anything for that matter that serves only to belittle me and keep me confined in a 'controlled environment' that is my mind/consciousness, the 'old me' that has felt 'safe' within its own self-imprisonment...

Which brings us to the point of self-creation. It is our acceptances and allowances that we hold within ourselves/our minds that in the end determine who and how we are. We are always the judge, and we are always the one that gives permission as to what we will accept about ourselves and where we will set our limitations!
We always create ourselves - and it seems we only have one real choice in life:
to either give ourselves up to the systems of consciousness and let 'them' (i.e. conditioning, habit, belief systems etc.) lead the way, to 'carry' us, to tell us who we are, what we need, what we desire, what we must fear, what we can and cannot do – and thus create ourselves ‘blindly’, in unawareness, through/as our REACTIONS;
OR to take directive leadership within ourselves and make Real Choices - which implies in fact absolute self-responsibility, realizing that what will become of me and what I will make out of my life is entirely up to me. Here it’s about actual self CREATION, in awareness.

(Granted, within the current world system there do exist physical limitations based on the socioeconomic conditions that each one is born into, but we're only fooling ourselves if we use that as an excuse or justification for why we are not making the BEST out of our lives, the BEST of ourselves, to the BEST of our ability.)

Interestingly enough those Real Choices I have referred to are not measured in ‘small’ and ‘big’, nor are they 'out there' somewhere; they are Here in every moment - as every moment defines who we are.
Thus we either ‘find’ and establish self awareness by in fact Being Aware in every moment that is here in this physical reality, thus seeing things for what they are and directing ourselves in the context of Reality, determining thus 'who I am' in every moment as a self-movement in awareness, an act of self-leadership;
OR we simply FOLLOW the conditioned and habitual reactions as the emotional-, thought- and behavior-patterns we have become, and accept/allow them to move us and to determine who we are.

So, looking in self-honesty at the consequences and confinements of where our conditioned patterns can lead us, I cannot but state Enough is Enough.
Which brings me to an interesting point that opened up when I looked at this word, the word ENOUGH, more in-depth. I will elaborate on this in my next post.

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