Day 529 | What Self Forgiveness Is To Me - part 2 - Zero Point

Alright, I'd like to add a bit to my previous blog where I've given some short examples of what self forgiveness is to me.

 

An interesting perspective that I came to look at recently in the context of what self forgiveness is, was the ZERO POINT.

LOL this is a word/term that we hear and see esp. in the new age or 'scientific' community…

But let me tell you how I look at it.

First though let’s look at Forgiveness as a definition – let’s have a look at the dictionary definition:

Full Definition of FORGIVE

transitive verb

1

a :  to give up resentment of or claim to requital for <forgive an insult>

b :  to grant relief from payment of <forgive a debt>

2

:  to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) :  pardon <forgive one's enemies>

intransitive verb

:  to grant forgiveness

Origin of FORGIVE

Middle English, from Old English forgifan, from for- + gifan to give

Related to FORGIVE

Related Words

absolve, acquit, clear, exculpate, exonerate, excuse, discharge, liberate, redeem, release, unburden

Near Antonyms

abhor, abominate, despise, detest, dislike, execrate, resent, hate, loathe; avenge, redress, requite, retaliate, revenge; discipline, penalize, punish

That’s very interesting, especially if one examines the polarities that the word Forgiveness is embedded into, and how there seems to be an ‘external authority’ required in ‘granting forgiveness’.

The definition of self forgiveness does not appear to exist in a dictionary.

Okay, so how do I want to see/be/live forgiveness – how can I define it?

Forgiveness is where I am able to let go and ‘forgive’ a point, where I then no longer see that point in a certain (past-defined) light, and no longer hold any form of grudge/blame or any attachment toward the point.

What is interesting within this as I can see is that I am not only releasing myself from my ‘past relationship’ with the point, I am also releasing the point itself and giving it the opportunity to change, to become something more, something better. Obviously, in case this point is a person, I find it supportive to incorporate an understanding/realization of the ‘problem’ and the ‘problem’s’ creation through communication, so that each one can take responsibility and have an opportunity to change/correct/evolve. Forgiveness without awareness would only bring momentary ‘relief’ but no real solution, no real change – and would possibly perpetuate the problem and lead to its repetition/re-cycling.

So, within a definition of Forgiveness as in letting go and forgiving a point, where I then no longer see that point in a certain (past-defined) light, and no longer hold any form of grudge/blame or any attachment toward the point;

Self Forgiveness would be the ‘forgiving’ and letting go of anything that I have accepted to ‘define’ self/me, as in eg. self-definitions, self-image, self-belief, perceptions, judgments, attributes, patterns…

Self forgiveness lived … is then the moment where (in relation to a certain point) one no-longer holds on to past definitions/attachments and thus is ‘free’ and able to access or create something new, a new relationship with/as the point for instance.

Forgiveness is thus the point where something NEW becomes possible, through releasing the attachment to the ‘old’.

 Thus we can look at Self Forgiveness as a ZERO POINT
– Looking at the definition of 'zero point' as in new start, or ground zero, or blank slate, self forgiveness is where I - in relation to any particular point - have 'come to peace' with it i.e. have seen, realized and understood its existence within me and/or within my world, and I no longer define myself by it or hold an emotional/mental attachment/polarity to-it. I can release it, and I release myself from it.

But isn’t that a point of separation? Or how does this ‘release’ work?

Indeed a question to investigate and explore – I mean what I’ve found is that I cannot change anything that I in any way judge. Fear is also a form of judgment, it’s a form of pushing something away, not wanting to look at it, deal with it, have it near. So what could be a solution? Embrace it, breathe it through, become it, understand its existence – then I can release it, then I can change it, as myself.

ZERO POINT when it comes to humanity, our reality, this world - would also be a point closely related to FORGIVENESS - where we’ll have to stop pointing fingers, stop the projections of blame and the abdication of responsibility, and really individually (and together as one) stand responsible for everything that is here, then truly we may be response-able to everything that is here as life, realizing it is ourselves, it is our substance, it is our home.

We’ll have to really release and let go of the old structures, the old ways, the old power game of fear and control, of divine and conquer. Release the fear and the inferiority, release the delusions of grandeur. Ground ourselves.

And that would require forgiveness, it would require self forgiveness, it would require that we work together and truly 'make peace' with what has been, understand how it came to it, and change it to the benefit of ALL.

Fortunately we more and more come to see (as it becomes visible through alternative media more and more, 'leaking' to the surface as per the nature of truth) evidence of a NEW WILL POWER emerging from THE PEOPLE of earth, as an AWARENESS of interconnectedness, of equality, of care – as well as the willingness to work together and to no longer accept the deception, exploitation and degradation of life and the true value life holds, that is equal in all that is here.

In this context:

An excellent audio recording on Awareness and Awakening with practical support perspectives

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Day 528 | Walking Self Forgiveness for Fearing I’m not Good Enough

Continuing from my previous post

Walking Self Forgiveness for Seeing Self through the Eyes of Others

<<...‘Seeing self through the eyes of others’ and the ‘fear of not being good enough’ are highly related to the experience/feeling of Insecurity that every one knows/has experienced. What is interesting, is how our Insecurity is connected to our perceptions of ‘Authority’, which can be seen in my above examples where self looks at self through the eyes of others, within this giving “the others” authority to determine and define self.>>

Now – From my previous bog post we can pinpoint some main fears: the fear of what other people will think of self and how other people will see self and how other people will value or judge self.

That’s where also for instance the fear of making mistakes, the fear of losing, the fear of ridicule comes from – “because how will that look in the eyes of people” and “what will that say about me”. 

So – is it really fear of ‘not being good enough’, or is it fear of not being seen as good enough by other people? Because within self, one may very well Know one is ‘good’ and capable, and that which is not good: one can change. So what purpose does the fear serve really?

The ‘fear of not being good enough’ one can approach simplistically by supporting oneself in becoming as good as one would like to be, in developing one’s skills and talents, one’s relationships in the world, making one’s life/living most effective, living to one’s full potential. We don’t do that.

Instead we look at others and think/believe we see in others this or that and we feel like this or like that – using others to ‘define’ ourselves, using others to for instance seek/get a feeling of acceptance or of appreciation or of respect, while we did not consider to first give it to ourselves, live it, find out what it is, before we even consider expecting it from others.

Within this, we create the fear of being seen as ‘not good enough’ – culture (and esp. the ‘consumer culture’ of/as the world system) plays a major role here too – and we make ourselves and our own value and worth subject to ideas in our mind /to “others” to define, to determine, to direct.

So the challenge here is for self to accept the responsibility of being ‘the one’ who determines Who I Am and determines the worth and value of oneself /one’s life = through one’s inner awareness alignment AND through one’s outer participation, behavior, and relationships in one’s world.

I mean we always define/determine who we are – whether that ‘happens’ through our acceptance and allowance or whether it is self defined/created in awareness.

The latter is obviously preferable, and is what I’m talking about when it comes to things like self-realization, awakening, etc.

So, the fear of other people seeing self as ‘not good enough’ can be directed by simply taking self-responsibility and no-longer accepting or allowing self to define self in/as reaction to “other people”; as well as by self-honestly living up to one’s responsibilities and being in fact ‘good enough’ as in doing what needs to be done, taking a stance to the best of one’s knowledge, understanding, and ability in that moment.

See – sometimes we even tend to go into an entire obsession/possession in our minds with fear, in fear making ourselves in-fearior, through submitting to the energetic experience of fear, contracting even more, participating in thoughts and internal conversations in, so much so that the ‘fearful character’ becomes alive so to speak. Then literally one’s fear as energy is becoming-alive – the Fearful Character – and then in that moment (while self is taking a back seat and allowing fear to ‘take over’) fear is ‘the one’ that acts out, that directs, behaves, makes decisions, because – “I, ‘fear’, must survive, I must be right, look how small I am, and what if I lose, what if I am not appreciated, oh no, I need more control, let me think, I need more energy, let me think, yes I must control it, but oh I’m so small, I must protect myself, I must keep myself alive blablabla” (says the Fearful Character) – and then there’s all the physical tension experiences and all the thoughts and beliefs that in one’s mind will ‘explain it all’ and ‘justify’ the fear to exist, so the self as ‘character’ can continue holding-onto and existing-as all those self-limiting ideas and perceptions of/about self. Fascinating.

So then obviously one requires to look also at self-beliefs of not being ‘good enough’ – this comes with the realization that all judgments I project and expect/fear as coming from “others”, I am actually already holding within myself/my mind – and to look at where and how and not least WHY am I holding such beliefs and ideas ‘alive’ and within that keep myself limited?

All those ‘fears’ around not being ‘good enough’ are interconnected, all have to do with ideas/beliefs of ‘value’ in polarity – seeking for ‘more value’/’superior value’ and fear of having one’s value ‘devalued’/’degraded’ as in ‘inferior’.

But where is the value of life as life?

I commit myself to stop devaluing and degrading myself – to identify where/when/how I devalue/degrade myself in my mind and also in my everyday living/participation, and to in those moments practice Stopping this self-sabotage and moving my awareness from self-diminishment /self-limitation – to the physical me here in awareness and self-support / constructive-living;

and practically within this I Live self-worth as life, self-respect, self-honesty, where the value is placed in life and living.

And when I support myself to live my full potential, more and more releasing and letting go of the limitations, and to live harmoniously and constructively with my environment and relationships, I can then say that I am ‘good enough’ as a human being in evolution, individual and collective.

In terms of re-defining words, I see here an interesting ‘exercise’/‘exorcise’ that can be ‘enacted’, lol, as follows:

Good

[charged with ‘positive energy’ eg. patterns of seeking ‘acceptance’ / ‘validation’ / ‘appreciation’ etc.]

Enough

[stop – can’t take any more – the cup is full]

>> Here I can then see that it is possible and perhaps wise to completely let go of and exorcise lol as in release ourselves from the idea/definition/term ‘good enough’!

For within this very expression a limitation is entailed: nothing more is expected, which excludes the possibility of anything more/new being possible – even though the possibility may in fact exist and something more may be possible. Get my drift? How would progress and evolution look like if it were just ‘good enough’ and not extraordinarily magnificent, perfection to the detail?

Well, human consciousness appears to be in the process of becoming an evolution in awareness, so let’s do our best, within and without, individually and collectively.

In this context:

An excellent audio recording as support in understanding Insecurity

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